Category: Positivity

Recovering from Holidays

You will think that coming back from holidays will make one relax, rejuvenated and ready to face the world again with energy!

Well, that’s what I thought as well until I come back and dive into the real world.

When you’re on holidays, everything is fun.
You eat without thinking of calories, and forget exercise.
We just buy stuff and do all these services justifying that it’s cheaper.
We sleep late and wake-up late.
The only major decision to think about is what to have for breakfast, lunch and dinner.

So you see, our brain (and our body) is in 7th heaven, just pure bliss!

Then you come back from holidays.

If you’re like me, you will go back to work immediately after landing. With only around 4 hrs of sleep.
You will try to survive the day with 8 cups of coffee.
And although your colleagues will complement how glowing you are with all that sunshine and tan you got (if you have nice officemates, they will not talk about your weight gain), deep inside you are like a zombie.

Thinking that it’s just jetlag, you try to adjust to the new timezone for a week.
But it has been 2 weeks now.
And you still feel sluggish and down.

THAT’S WHAT I’M FEELING PEOPLE!

I’m trying to kick-out this feeling by watching inspirational videos.
Psyching myself that all is good and I have a great job.
Family is all healthy. Life is excellent!

Today while driving to work I keep on telling myself that I am rich, healthy and happy.
That it is safe for me to have everything that my heart desires.
My Lord is a very giving God.
Seek and it shall be given to you.

Yesterday, I was reminded how being positive can move mountains.
You know how I love being a life coach to people who is willing to listen, right?
And one of those people is my friend Joy. She is always willing to listen to me.
And I love how I can share my ‘Law of Attraction’ knowledge to her.

Then yesterday, when I was on my lowest, she called me and said how our talks late last year had made so many positive results in her life.
She practiced the things I told her and keep on reminding herself to stay positive and just believe.
I felt like I snapped from my slump and realized that I should practice more what I preach.

Instead of feeling low for not getting the things how I want them, or getting them not soon enough – and being guilty about it, I should be thankful and grateful for everything that has happened and believe that there are more good things coming into my way.

Forget August being the ghost month. Claim that the rest of the year will be your time to be the best!
List down all the things you want to achieve before 2017 ends.
Let the positive energy flow into you while you’re writing things down.
Smile, be thankful, feel the joy.

Read this list every week if not everyday.
Just believe, believe, believe!

And then receive all these blessings with open arms. Woohoo!
Thank you God!

 

 

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How to Deal with Sadness and Depression

I’m back in Dubai and catching up with my work mails. As much as I want to tell you stories of our Hong Kong trip and adventures in the Philippines, I don’t have time.

I’m not depressed nor sad but I was notified by Facebook that someone shared this post from my other blog. I re-read it and still find it relevant so why not share again 🙂
I just made some typo and grammar edits (although for sure it’s still not perfect)

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How to Deal with Sadness and Depression
06 Feb 2016

My gosh! My last post was in October!!! What happened? Real life kicks in. I am busy with work, family, my mom visiting us in Dubai, holidays. Reasons! Reasons! I know.

But what made me decide to write today? It’s something I read on my Facebook timeline.
I don’t understand why some people dish their dirty laundry, angry outbursts and sad sentiments on social media. Why?!
Well, maybe some people are more emotional than others and they don’t really care if readers will have an opinion of them afterwards.
As a reader, we can always un-friend them if they make us feel negative. But since I’m a tsismosa, I don’t.

Anyways, going back to my Facebook friend. She is an Overseas Filipino in UAE and left her husband and kids in the Philippines to earn a living. She just came back from her vacation back home and is now depressed despite being surrounded with friends. And she said she can’t understand why.

To be honest, I felt sad after reading her post. I felt a certain degree of empathy. Not because I am missing my kids (they are with me) but because I have felt sadness and depression before. I still experience it from time to time. Sometimes it is just a fleeting moment but there are times it lingers longer than usual. And it ain’t fun.

So how to deal with sadness and depression? For me there are two steps. If you can perfect these two things, you can get out of it in a snap and will turn around your life completely.

1. Think positively

What?!? That’s it??? YES. That’s it. 

As I keep on telling you my friend, thinking positively will alter your life completely. Thoughts become things. The Universe gives us the energy that we vibrate, may it be positive or negative. You’re feeling sad and drowning with sorrow, don’t expect to get out of it very soon unless you change your mindset. Honestly, no one can really help you unless you change your outlook.

It doesn’t matter how beautiful and sensible your family and friends advices are to help you get out of your depression. They won’t help. What will help is your attitude. Nothing else.

2. Plan and Take Action

Ok. That’s two steps, right? But I will just consider it as one, as planning without action is futile and taking action without planning it first is doomed.

What causes your depression? Is it your weight? Is it money? Is it your relationship? Is it your work? Is it health? Or it could be a combination of these things.

This is what I want you to do. Take down a notebook and a pen and write down your thoughts about that ‘thing’ that makes you depressed or sad.

Example:

“I’m so sad I am away with my family and I need to earn a living away from them. Our circumstances won’t allow me to go back home very soon. I think I’ll spend long years in this country and my children will grow up without me.”

“I cannot recover with my loan and credit card debts. I am trying my very best to get out of it. I am constantly saving and spending less but it’s not enough. Banks are calling me now for late payments and started to threaten me with legal actions.”

“I’m 36 and still no husband and kid. I want to settle down soon.”

“My boss is from hell and going to work is like going to a warzone. But there is no way I can resign. I need money right now and although I am looking for a new job, there are no calls. I hate my life!”

 

Is this the story of your life? I can feel you. One way or another, I’ve been there. And the feeling is not good, I know. I’ve also cried out of depression. Hated life. Hated myself. Even now, from time to time. I feel sad but I just practice what I preach and to be honest with you – it make wonders.

Going back, after writing that ‘thing’, imagine you are the friend of a person who experiences that ‘thing’. What will be your advice to him/her? Write it down. Why am I asking you to do this? Because I want you to use your brain rather than your heart in looking into your problem. Whenever we give advice to our dear friends, we are always reasonable. We always enlighten our sad friend with words of wisdom which is practical and logical. I want you to do that with your self. Be logical.

And the good thing about being logical is you can always find a solution. The solution is all about taking in-charge.

The root cause of our depression is the feeling of being powerless. We feel that we are stuck in our situation and there is no way out. That our circumstances won’t change. And even though we are trying our best to get out of it, we feel we’re still doomed.

But if you start thinking logically, you know it is not true. There is always a way out. Planning is one way of winning the battle and taking action will surely lead us out of our situation and into our goal.

Let’s take for example my Facebook friend. She’s depressed because of loneliness. She’s away with her family because she needs to earn a living. I think if she focuses more of taking in-charge of the situation rather than feeling a victim of circumstances, everyday will become an opportunity to change her life.

And what are the ways to take charge of the situation? In her case, she can:

* Call her children and husband every time there is an opportunity. Talk to them through Skype, Viber, Messenger and whatever means of being connected.

* Be involved in school activities or child-rearing by still giving her inputs. May it be on what the kids will wear on school program or where to buy it. What will be their school snacks. Just being involved.

* Talk to husband and tell him that they need to be align on saving and spending. This is the most important part of being an overseas worker. If you want to return back home as early as you can, then you have to be wise spending your salary and finding other ways to earn.

* She needs to set a timeline until when she needs to work abroad based on how much she saved already. For example, if she can save this X amount of money for 1 year, she can then start a small business. This business will augment her salary. She can then work for another 2 years saving the same amount of cash if not more. She’s giving herself total of 3 years then. Based on her circumstances it could be longer but at least she knows that there is an end of her overseas life. It won’t be forever. Because she is taking control both of her finances and her emotions.

And taking control of your emotions and actions will empower you. You are not just drifting with life. You are in charge.

And planning and taking action apply in all facets of your life. May it be about your weight, your work life, your relationship. List down the things that you can control, both your emotions and tangible things. You are depressed at work? Have a horrible boss? Then write down the good things that your company gives you. That you have a steady income. You found good friends. You’re just 30 minutes away from work.

Find the positive things in your circumstances but at the same time start looking for ways to get out of your situation. Spend 30 minutes a day to look jobs online. Or aggressively save to start your own business. Once you set a goal, going to work won’t be as bad. It will be an opportunity to earn and learn.

Remember: There is always a way out! 

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From an Overseas Filipino: 10 Lessons I Learned From Becoming A Self-Made Millionaire

This is not a brag post. I am not here to enumerate the things I acquire or tell you how much money I have. I am writing this post to let others know my way of thinking that helped me achieved my first million (in Philippine Pesos for now) in my early thirties.

As someone who aspires to be rich (in all aspects of life), I devour reading positive and enlightening articles, how to get rich posts, success stories and anything about getting out of debt and poverty.

I would have loved to read something similar to my post now when I was younger.
Someone who I can relate to. Be inspired to achieve more in life.
If all of us will be scared to tell people how we achieved our success for fear of being labelled as brag, then we’re not helping each other. (more…)

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Novena to St. Expeditus

I saw Chuvaness’ post about this novena and I thought let me try. I want one thing to happen within a few hours and I’m so worried it will never materialize (I’m losing hope actually).
After a few hours, I received a message that my wish was granted. And just want Chuvaness did, I’m sharing this post as a promise.

St. Expeditus is the saint to pray to

For a financial crisis
For house and home problems
For quick help
When you are in urgent need
For quick action
To end procrastination
For desperate causes
For intercession and protection

“Just call out to Saint Expedite, to get his attention, and ask for what you need. Be sure to offer something in return for his efforts. Most importantly make sure you live up to your end of the bargain, with no regrets or complaints (there is nothing worse than a sore winner). If things did not go as anticipated than either you did not make yourself clear or you did not think your needs through. You can’t expect Saint Expedite to tailor everything to wishes he had no knowledge of. Always offer him a reward for helping you.” – from this website

LET US PRAY:
My Saint Expeditus, saint of fair and urgent causes,
Help me in this time of affliction and despair.
Intercede for me with Our Lord Jesus Christ!
You who are a warrior saint
You who are the saint of the afflicted
You who are the saint of the desperate
You who are the saint of urgent causes,
Protect me, help me, give me strength, courage and serenity.
Hear my plea … (say your plea here)
Help me through these difficult hours
Protect me from all those who want to hurt me
Protect my family
Respond to my plea with haste
Bring me peace and tranquility.
I will be grateful to you for the rest of my life
and speak your name to all those who have faith.
Many thanks, my Saint Exeditus.

Say one Our Father, one Hail Mary, and make the sign of the cross.
This prayer was approved by the Church.
Pray especially on the feast of St. Expeditus on April 19.

Wishing everyone a blessed holy week!

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I want to create a community

Do you feel like talking to someone about money and success and business and wealth without being judged? You know, just share with him/her your thoughts and they would just listen and advise if required. Or you will talk about money and success and how to get lots of them and they won’t judge you as greedy?

A community of like-minded individuals who share the same aspirations and goals, who dreams of the same things and want to just get-together to talk and be inspired. We will share our achievements and everybody will be genuinely happy. Sure, maybe we will feel a little jealous but we will use that jealousy as fire to create own own success.

No crab-mentality, no pulling each other down, no bitching. Just plain brotherhood/sisterhood with one goal in mind – being successful in our own personal definition.

I want to create that community. I know it’s not for everyone as not everybody will want the same things that we do. Being financially aware is a state-of-mind that either you are currently in or not. It would be nice to be with people who dreams (or probably already achieved) financial independence. As I said on my previous post, entrepreneurship is kind of a lonely journey. But I realized it doesn’t have to be. We can actively find a mentor or join a community. It’s our task to find the right people we are comfortable with.

Are you up to it? We don’t need to meet up personally (although that would be a good idea). We can build a private Facebook page and just share our experiences, goals and give advice to each other on how to be freaking wealthy and yet still grounded, fabulous, simple, beautiful, giving – whatever kind of rich you want to be.

Do you know that I bought a domain in 2015? It’s called firstmillionclub.com. I haven’t activated it yet because I don’t want to start something that I won’t be able to maintain. From the website name, it’s obvious what it’s all about, right? I want to build a community of people who aspires their first million in whatever currency.

When I bought that domain, I intend to post articles on how to pay off debts, how to save money, how to invest. Apart from practical things, I want to share some manifestation exercises that I do to maintain my positive and abundant mindset.
And since it’s a community, I want everyone to share their experiences as well. Their saving tips, financials things that they did wrong, financial advise, and so on.

If you’re up to it, drop me a message at lyn(at)filipinaexpat(dot)com or PM me on my Facebook page or leave  a comment below. If you want to ask me detailed info on how I set-up my nail salon, I am more than happy to share it with the community. It could be just you and me in our group but who knows, we can be a tribe someday.

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The Story of SLIAN NAILS (Part 2)

The story of SLIAN NAILS (Part 1)

Here’s PART 1.

It has been almost 2 weeks since our nail salon opened last February 22 and it’s quite a ride. The board of directors – Gibson as Chairman, me as CEO and Jholen as General Manager – are constantly in-touch and discussing the day-to-day operations, staff performance and issues, advertising ideas, financial aspects and everything you can think of. Thanks God to Facebook Messenger. (And if you’re wondering if that’s our official titles, NO. I’m just kidding but isn’t it fun? And who knows, we can be incorporated one day and the dream will again turn into reality) (more…)

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Upgrade to Emirates Business Class

A few days before our flight, Gibson and I received a mail from Emirates notifying us that we can check-in. Mentioned on the same mail is an offer to be upgraded for AED 1800 per person for one way. I haven’t seen this kind of offer before. Either because it’s really not offered to us or it’s not in our consciousness hence we haven’t noticed.
You see, it’s our first time to travel without the kids and it could be a factor why we have received this mail.

Anyways, I initially thought that this is a very very good offer. We only paid AED 2040 each for our return tickets and paying additional AED 1800 (3600 for both of us) is not bad. We once paid for my MIL’s EK flight to Dubai for more than 5k dhs. (more…)

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The Story of SLIAN NAILS (Part 1)

The story of SLIAN NAILS (Part 1)
The Story of SLIAN NAILS (Part 1)

If you are following me, you know that I am in the process of setting up my own nail salon business in the Philippines. 

And you might also know that one of my mantra in life is ‘Sharing is Caring’. This world will be a better place if all of us can be more generous to one other. Not only sharing material things but our time and knowledge as well.

I want you to know my experience and learn from it. Take those information that apply to you and disregard things that don’t. I will share the difficulties and my mistakes (which I hope I won’t do often) and hope you try to get something from it too.

Note that we haven’t opened yet and I still have lots to experience and learn but if I wait until everything is settled and done, then I might forget some details. I would rather document things while I still remember them.

I am no expert, first and foremost. The things I am doing now for my business is purely based on research, reading other people’s stories (both their successes and failures), and my gut instinct. My mother is a business-minded woman and a serial entrepreneur but she never aimed high. What she (and my father) wanted was just a regular income to survive and let their 6 children graduate college. I don’t really have a mentor. I don’t personally know anyone that I can look up to. (more…)

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Dear fellow OFWs, just go for it!

Being an OFW (Overseas Filipino Worker) has its perks. You get to experience other nationalities’ cultures, you get paid more, you get to experience things that seems to be unthinkable before but reachable now. Most important thing is the opportunity to provide better life for our family.

But comes with these benefits is the reality that it can be lonely. Being away with our children, partner, parents and siblings becomes a sad norm. Missing special occasions and important moments has been inevitable.
And the harsh truth of being an OFW in Middle East countries is time will come that we will need to leave our host country no matter how much we love it.  The benefits of a citizen can never be given to us.
We will forever be an expat to our host country. (more…)

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How do I deal with stress?

 

They said that stress is anticipation of a problem. You know, there is an issue and you are already worried that it will just be uncontrollable and you fear the worst to happen. So to put it simply, stress is 10% problem and 90% anticipation of the issue.

I am not a worrier but I am quite perfectionist with myself. So my stress is my own doing.

But good thing that I am self-aware. I know when I’m stressed and already figured out that writing helps.

During the last Lifestyle sale, I was able to grab this notebook and I fell on love with the message.

How do I deal with stress?

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