Category: Musings

Recovering from Holidays

You will think that coming back from holidays will make one relax, rejuvenated and ready to face the world again with energy!

Well, that’s what I thought as well until I come back and dive into the real world.

When you’re on holidays, everything is fun.
You eat without thinking of calories, and forget exercise.
We just buy stuff and do all these services justifying that it’s cheaper.
We sleep late and wake-up late.
The only major decision to think about is what to have for breakfast, lunch and dinner.

So you see, our brain (and our body) is in 7th heaven, just pure bliss!

Then you come back from holidays.

If you’re like me, you will go back to work immediately after landing. With only around 4 hrs of sleep.
You will try to survive the day with 8 cups of coffee.
And although your colleagues will complement how glowing you are with all that sunshine and tan you got (if you have nice officemates, they will not talk about your weight gain), deep inside you are like a zombie.

Thinking that it’s just jetlag, you try to adjust to the new timezone for a week.
But it has been 2 weeks now.
And you still feel sluggish and down.

THAT’S WHAT I’M FEELING PEOPLE!

I’m trying to kick-out this feeling by watching inspirational videos.
Psyching myself that all is good and I have a great job.
Family is all healthy. Life is excellent!

Today while driving to work I keep on telling myself that I am rich, healthy and happy.
That it is safe for me to have everything that my heart desires.
My Lord is a very giving God.
Seek and it shall be given to you.

Yesterday, I was reminded how being positive can move mountains.
You know how I love being a life coach to people who is willing to listen, right?
And one of those people is my friend Joy. She is always willing to listen to me.
And I love how I can share my ‘Law of Attraction’ knowledge to her.

Then yesterday, when I was on my lowest, she called me and said how our talks late last year had made so many positive results in her life.
She practiced the things I told her and keep on reminding herself to stay positive and just believe.
I felt like I snapped from my slump and realized that I should practice more what I preach.

Instead of feeling low for not getting the things how I want them, or getting them not soon enough – and being guilty about it, I should be thankful and grateful for everything that has happened and believe that there are more good things coming into my way.

Forget August being the ghost month. Claim that the rest of the year will be your time to be the best!
List down all the things you want to achieve before 2017 ends.
Let the positive energy flow into you while you’re writing things down.
Smile, be thankful, feel the joy.

Read this list every week if not everyday.
Just believe, believe, believe!

And then receive all these blessings with open arms. Woohoo!
Thank you God!

 

 

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TOTGA

TOTGA – The One That Got Away

A letter from Aga Muchlach to Lea Salonga has resurfaced in the internet last month and it was so “kilig”. 

It’s definitely a love letter that is so sweet yet bittersweet at the same time. Aga penned this letter four years ago when he was asked to write something for Lea’s book titled  “Playlist — A Celebration of 35 Years.”

The first line struck me – “Lea is the one that got away. And she never knew.”
Ouch!
So bittersweet.

And it made me thinking, have I met a guy that I can consider to be my TOTGA?

So I went down memory lane last night while driving home from work. I recounted my earliest crush in high school and my not-so-many boyfriends along the way.

And honestly, I don’t think I met anyone that I regret not ending up with.
Not that the boys I met are all bad, it’s just that they are only boys that time.
Probably immature and haven’t reached their whole manly potential.

I might have met all of them on their ‘bad and immature’ self before.
And since I will never know if they changed, I’m just glad now that I didn’t end up with them.

On the other side of fence, have I been TOTGA to anyone?

I mean, look at me now – beautiful, successful, fun, a totally great catch! LOL!

Lea is lucky that Aga has been honest and mature enough to admit it and share it with the world.
Ang haba ng hair nya!
Not everyone will openly admit that they let someone got away.

I’m not sure how Charlene feels now. Reading your husband announcing to the whole world that Lea is the one that got away from his life might probably painful.
If I’m in her shoe, that pronouncement will sting.

But who knows, maybe Charlene is very much aware of this. The fact that this was written only 4 years ago means that Charlene is definitely in Aga’s life then. She could have helped Aga wrote it.

Do you have any TOTGA in your life or have anyone told you that you are their TOTGA? Share please. I want to be kilig 🙂

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2nd Year of Blogging

I still yet to share our Hong Kong trip but I’m still on Day 1 and we were there for 5 days so it might take some time before I can really publish it.

Today I realized that July is Filipina Expat’s anniversary month. I think I posted my first post in Jul4 24, 2015.
I have to go through my posts to check.

And I wonder, should I write a meaningful article? Any touching anecdotes? Should I do a giveaway?
Just something to commemorate my 2nd year of blogging.
But I can’t think of anything. And I really don’t want to do anything.

We landed in Dubai last Sunday and with just 3 hours of sleep, I went straight to work.
Had to dive on hundred of emails and issues in the office.
On my spare time, the only thing I want to do is sleep.

But when I realized this morning that it’s my anniversary month, I thought I have to at least write something.
I can maybe write about my personal events from  July 2016 up to date.
What happened to me? What changed?

Professionally, nothing changed. I’m still doing the same job but with the change of office management my role becomes more challenging in a good way. I have more freedom to do the things my way, and my boss just basically let me manage the office how I want it. That’s good.

Personally, of course you are aware that I set-up my own nail salon in the Philippines in February 2016. My sister is managing it. So far so good. We’re still on learning phase, figuring out how to manage our staff, expenses and sales.
Being an Overseas Filipino for more than a decade, having a business feels like something good came out of all those years.

I’m not  guru for sure but you can read how I started here.

On my blogging life, I’ve been more quiet in social media this year.
Not that I lose interest, I’m still as passionate in blogging as when I started.
But sharing what I write is not something that I am keen to do.

Most of my posts nowadays are personal. I write mostly for myself  because I want to and not because I need to.
You can read it on the blog but I don’t want to share it on social media.

I don’t even want to share what I have eaten, places I’ve visited or things that I purchased on Facebook or Instagram
Nothing bad to say to those who share. I actually enjoy reading other’s escapades but I don’t feel sharing my own life out there.

How ironic considering I’m sharing a lot of personal thoughts on this blog now.
But I don’t think my family nor friends read my blog. They just see what I want to share on social media.
Which is fine by me.
Because writing becomes an outlet to share my thoughts without needing to explain anything to anyone.
Yes, I might get judged but these people who will judge me are people whom I don’t know.
I don’t really care.

But if I share it on Facebook, chances are high that my post will be read my relatives and then I might need to explain.
Which I don’t want to do. So majority of my posts lately are just published on the blog.

I also stopped attending media events. Unless it’s a personal invite, I rarely go.
I think I only attended 3 events this past year, all were in support of fellow Filipino bloggers and business.

Now that I’m into my 2nd year of blogging, what am I looking forward to?
Hmmmnn… nothing much.
I would like to focus more on getting rich, both materially and all aspects in my life.
And I would like to share the journey with you.

I’d like to increase our investment, have another SLIAN NAILS branch, maybe buy another property.
I would like to focus on being healthy and watch what I eat.
It would be nice to travel more countries this year.
I want to inspire more women of not getting afraid being wealthy.

As I keep on saying, money won’t changed you. It would just amplify who you are already.

So I would like to share my life with you. Maybe you can learn a thing or two from my journey.
Both from my achievements and mistakes.
And together we can rule the world. Choz!

 

Have a good weekend!

 

 

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Relaxing Friday

I was supposed to do some shopping for the salon yesterday.
But the almost 50 C temperature is turning me into an old asparagus lately.
Around 2pm, I knew that there’s no chance we will venture out so I decided to just go to our neighborhood salon.

The idea is to have pedicure and facial.
I try to do my toenails done every 2 weeks and have facial once a month.
And it’s been months since I visited a salon.
It’s about high time!

While browsing the menu, Simply Beauty has some combo offers.
Moroccan bath and Facial for AED 250 and 30-minute Foot massage and Pedicure for AED 100.
Hmmm… not bad.
And the most important question I always ask – how long are these treatments?

Moroccan and facial will be 2 hours, foot massage and pedicure is another hour.
Should be fine. Gibson and kids were having a nap and they would only missed me for 1 hour or less.
So let the pampering begin! (more…)

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My thoughts in 2015 – Revisited

I have been browsing my draft folders to see if there’s a blog post I can continue working on so I can just publish it.
Then I found this:

Five things I’m thinking today

1. When will I stop being employed and start my own business?

2. Need to fill-up our Italian visa application.

3. Waaah! Tita Beth left for good. Who’s in charge now?

4. Can I just shop without thinking of a budget?

5.

 

This is very amusing for me.

The draft is dated November 28, 2015.
I reckon the reason I didn’t publish this was because I can’t think of a 5th point, and then day ended.
If I continue working on it the next day then I’m not only thinking about these things that day but also the following day.
So it’s not only today. Get it? (more…)

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I just want to be average

My son never studies.
And I don’t push him as much as I need to.

I never review my lessons as well when I was as a kid.
But I know myself, I am quite bright.

I can memorize fast if I want to.
So I would review a few days before an examination or quiz and I would get an above average passing grade.
Sure, I will forget everything after the test, but who cares right?
As long as you passed the exam then that’s more than enough.

I think my son has the same attitude in studying.

I never saw him do his homework voluntarily.
And if he does, there’s always nagging and threats involve.
And he never reviews.

Surprisingly, he gets above average grades too.
He never gets awards or honorable mentions
But at least I am not called by school for failing marks.

And I always wonder, am I doing the right thing?

Every single day I tell him to be a star.
I heard Kris Aquino telling the same thing to his sons.

Cole never replies back until that day when he said
“I just want to be average!”

I was taken aback by his reply.

Is it bad to be average?
Should I push him to be the best?
Explore his potential and excel?

OR

Should I let him be him?
Let him figure out what he wants on his own?
And what’s wrong of not standing out?

Ask him what he wants to be when he grows up and his reply is to be a Youtuber.
Seriously.

And I have all these ideas that he can be a Chef and Restaurateur one day.
Or a business magnate.
Or a CEO of multi-national company.
Or the President of the Philippines.

But no.

He wants to be a Youtuber.

So I told him that being a good Youtuber means being good speaker.
He has to be good in something to attract attention.
He should never be shy in front of camera.

Youtuber is not bad.
Sure it’s different from what I had in mind but at the end of the day, I want my son to be happy.
As long as he isn’t hurting anyone, is respectful and contributing to the world, I think I am fine with whatever he wants to be.

Anyways, he is only 10.

There’s still chance he can be the President of the Philippines.
Help me God!

 

 

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Word connoisseur

When I first came to Dubai, I thought I’m a word connoisseur (is there such a term?)
Since I love to read, I got exposed to different words and though I don’t use them often, I have fair grasp of their meaning and know how to spell them (like the word connoisseur).

And then I came to Dubai.

This is how skinny I am when I first came to Dubai. Global Village 2006.

First few weeks were struggle. I think I know how to speak English but why the hell I can’t understand my colleagues?
British, Indian, Arabs- they all talk gibberish.

This is what my ears were hearing:
Indian:  Wer ken I get ye-four and delephone? 
British: Can you shed-jool sem-ee prive-et yat?
Arabs: Akhaamed wants bizza and bebsi.

My first job in Dubai was a receptionist so you can imagine the number of people I encounter everyday.
I am so embarrassed whenever I ask them to repeat what they said since they already repeated it twice.
They might think I can’t understand english or I’m just plain stupid.

I clearly recall an Indian colleague repeatedly yelling ye-for,Ye-For, YE-FOR since I don’t get it.
He was so frustrated. I’m so dumb.

As it turned out. He was asking for A4 paper. In the Philippines, we call them ‘typewriting’
Even if he had a heart attack screaming YE-FOR, I wouldn’t be able to give it to him.
Because I DON’T FREAKING KNOW!

Over time, I told myself it’s not me, it’s them. If I can’t understand an English man, it’s not because I don’t freaking know English, but his accent is at fault.
There are some people who speaks english in neutral accent and I don’t have a problem in conversing with them.

Also, there are so many words added on my vocabulary in 12 years I’ve been living here.

Toilet – does it sound very vulgar? We’re used calling it CR, comfort room, washroom but toilet?! No.

I recall going to a mall and asked the cleaner
Me: Excuse me, where’s the CR?
Cleaner: No
Me: Bubble thoughts ‘for sure there’s CR in the mall’. Oh, I mean comfort room.
Cleaner: No. No.
Me: Washroom?
Cleaner: NO.
Me: Bubble thoughts ‘WTF’

I then started using sign language as if I’m washing my hands.

Cleaner: Ohhh! Toilet, go straight then left.
Me: Almost peed on the floor… 

Pantry – If I tell my mom to grab coffee from pantry, I will end up just taking it myself because what the hell is a pantry. We call it cabinet on our side of the world.

To Let – my first thought when I read this in 2005 – “Have they stupidly forgot the I in the banner? But why are they promoting toilet?”

Tiffin box – when my son asked if he can have a tiffin box, I googled it right away.

And you know how we are taught of US English in school? It’s quite an adjustment to write centre, colour, organisation.

And the most difficult adjustment is using day-month-year when writing.
So 5-6-2017 is not May 6, 2017. It is June 5, 2017.

When we got married in 2016, Gibson and I discussed how we should write the date on our wedding ring.
He said that we are Filipinos and we should write August 6, 2006 as 8-6-06.
I agreed.
After 11 years of marriage, I am now confused on what’s our anniversary date since I always rely on my ring to help me remember. Don’t tell my husband. I’m really bad with dates.

Overall, I’m grateful being exposed to different nationalities and learning different accents and new words.
Now, me and my family can survive going to any parts of the world and be able to communicate as long as English is the medium of conversation.

Have a good day!

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Thoughts About Blogging

I started blogging in 2005 just to get things out of my mind.
I’m quite depressed that time and I need to divert my attention to something.

Blogging become some kind of therapy.

After a few months, I started receiving invites to attend events.
To be honest, it’s exciting.
But 9 out of 10 times I will need to decline as these events don’t interest me or the timings are in conflict with my schedule.
I also don’t attend events during weekdays.

From time to time, I feel pangs of jealousy on other bloggers who receive payment for their collaboration.
I don’t get anything from blogging. In fact I actually spend yearly for my domain. (more…)

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Eating Habits to Follow During Ramadan

I don’t fast during Ramadan but this article I received from Burjeel Hospital in Abu Dhabi is really useful so I’m sharing it with you.

Suhoor and Iftar food: To Eat or Not to Eat Eating Habits to Follow During Ramadan

Eating Habits to Follow During Ramadan

Ramadan is just a few days away and while the holy month is filled with goodness, Ramadan falls at the peak of summer this year.
It is important we maintain our energy levels and avoid the unhealthy food temptations that come with the month.

“In Ramadan our diets are radically altered, as we eat only during Suhoor (pre-dawn) and Iftar (at sunset). As such both these meals form an essential part of fasting.
While it’s a good idea to consume low Glycaemic Index (GI) items, both Suhoor and Iftar should be well-balanced and contain items from each food group, such as vegetables, cereals, meat, dairy products and fruits,” said Ms. Rahma Ali , Clinical Dietician at Burjeel Hospital Abu Dhabi.

“Suhoor needs to be wholesome to provide enough energy to last during the long hours of fasting.
It is important that the food you consume keeps you hydrated, so pay careful attention to the selection of food-items during Suhoor,” added Ms. Ali.

Foods to Eat During Suhoor

Protein Rich Food: Eggs are high in proteins and most nutritious. They not only help you to stay fuller, but can be made in several ways to suit your taste buds.

Fibre Rich Food: Oat meal is rich in fibre and a perfect meal your body needs during Suhoor. Soluble fibre turns to gel in the stomach and slows digestion, which helps lower cholesterol and blood glucose, perfect to keep you energised throughout your fast.

Calcium and Vitamin Rich Food: Dairy products are a great source of nutrition. Opt for a yoghurt smoothie or choose a vanilla and honey milk shake to stay full and hydrated throughout the day.

Foods Not to Eat During Suhoor

Simple or refined carbohydrates: these are food that last only 3 to 4 hours and they are low in essential nutrients Such as: sugars, white flour, pastries, donuts, croissants

Salty food: imbalance of sodium levels in your body makes you very thirsty while fasting so try to avoid salted nuts, pickles, chips and food that contain soya sauce

Caffeinated Drinks: Coffee has caffeine which leads to insomnia and restlessness. In addition, it doesn’t hydrate and keeps you longing for water the whole day.

“While Suhoor is important, eating habits during Iftar cannot be ignored. Hence, it is important during Ramadan to break the fast with a balanced diet ensuring that the essential nutritional needs of your body are met.
These include sodium and potassium which are lost due to sweating, especially during summer,” said Ms. Ali

Foods to Eat During Iftar

Potassium Rich Fruits: Dates are nutrient powerhouses and excellent food-item to break your fast. It not only helps you hydrate quickly, but gives you instant energy to make you feel rejuvenated after the long-hours of fasting.

Sufficient fluids: Drink as much water or fruit juices as possible between Iftar and bedtime to avoid dehydration

Raw Nuts:  Almonds contain good fats which are essential, particularly when your body has been craving for fats after the long-hours of fasting. It is a perfect Iftar item which helps you feel full and in control, without the need to binge.

Hydrating Vegetables: Cucumbers, lettuce, and other vegetables are high in fibre and laden with the goodness of hydrating properties. It not only helps your body feel cool, but is also a great choice to keep you skin healthy and avoid constipation during Ramadan.

Foods Not to Eat During Iftar

Carbonated Drinks: Avoid drinking processed beverages and carbonated drinks. Stick to regular water and or coconut water to soothe your thirst.

High-sugar Foods: High-sugar food items as sweets, chocolates should be avoided. They are instant source of weight gain and can lead to complexities if consumed every day.

Fried-foods: Greasy and fried food like fried dumplings and samosas should be avoided. Also avoid oily curries and greasy pastries to reap healthy benefits for your body during Ramadan.

“Fasting during Ramadan can improve one’s health, but only if done in proper manner, if not, it can cause more harm than good. It is important to have self-control when you see a good spread of appetizing meal. The key is to remember that Ramadan is a month to reap rewards and benefits, and increase your spiritual connection,” concluded Ms. Ali

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From an Overseas Filipino: 10 Lessons I Learned From Becoming A Self-Made Millionaire

This is not a brag post. I am not here to enumerate the things I acquire or tell you how much money I have. I am writing this post to let others know my way of thinking that helped me achieved my first million (in Philippine Pesos for now) in my early thirties.

As someone who aspires to be rich (in all aspects of life), I devour reading positive and enlightening articles, how to get rich posts, success stories and anything about getting out of debt and poverty.

I would have loved to read something similar to my post now when I was younger.
Someone who I can relate to. Be inspired to achieve more in life.
If all of us will be scared to tell people how we achieved our success for fear of being labelled as brag, then we’re not helping each other. (more…)

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