You survived!

Dear Self,

What a freaking 2020, right? Just like the rest of the world thought initially, 2020 seems to be an amazing year to start the decade. Everybody wants to start the year (and the decade) on the right track.

Goals were set, dreams envisioned, plans made – then this pandemic hits us hard. Being the always optimistic, glass-half-full girl, you decided that this is just a setback and we must endure. And endure we did.

The thing is, there were many times it’s so tiring to continue, and you lost count the times you cried in the shower. You cried for all the loss, for the uncertainties, you cried because of fear and disappointment. You cried alone because you don’t want anyone to see that you’re hurt and sad and scared. You’re supposed to be strong and inspirational. The one person they can go to for advice and vent their frustration. You’re supposed to lift them. But who’s lifting you?

One thing 2020 taught so many of us is how STRONG and RESILIENT we all are. I’m so proud of each and every one of us for surviving this shitty year. Because even though we cried, and cried, and cried, we still manage to get up and get through. It ain’t easy, we don’t want to do it, but a strong woman knows that this too shall pass.

It’s so amusing to remember the roller coaster of emotions you went through:

January to March – “GIRL POWER! I can conquer the world!”
April to June – “this is just a setback, everything will be okay”
July to September – “I fucking hate it. I just want to curl up and cry in the shower for 5 hours”
October – “Oh well, now what? Crying is tiring.”
November – “Maybe I can start again.”
December – “You survived bitch! Any plans for 2021?”

Self, I appreciate you. In spite and despite of everything, you did it.
Your spirit might have gone low but you constantly try to lift it up through your faith, through your beliefs, through the sheer mental power to fuck 2020! haha

I’d like to say that I hate 2020 because of all the shit that happened but honestly, I don’t. Many amazing things have happened too. Focusing on what didn’t happen or what we lost is human but counting what we have gained and didn’t lose is gratitude. And despite of everything, gratefulness for what we still have is what drives us to continue.

You deserve to do something for yourself. Pamper yourself, buy yourself that shit you wanted for the longest time, travel, take a break, read a book alone, do everything, or do nothing if you want – just take care of yourself these coming days. You fucking deserve it!

Next year, I know you’ll be reborn. You’re stronger, you’re wiser, you’re determined more than ever. 2021 should better be so ready because you’re so ready for her!


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Ano ang nasa dako pa roon?

Aloha! I just renewed my Filipina Expat domain with no further plans on what to do with it. You probably know that I have and you’ll see regular blog posts there.

Now that I’m back in the Philippines, the brand The Wealthy Pinay will be a source of income for me – workshops, books, speaking engagements – so giving it more time is a must.

However, bilang isa syang wealth/money mindset/business blog, I can’t really post this random, useless, entertaining, witty thoughts that I want to share to the world just to unload. So until I figure out what to do with Filipina Expat domain, you’ll probably read more from me. By the way, wala ng FB page ang Filipina Expat dahil ang mga messages na nare-receive ko doon ay puro lalake, “Looking for a Filipina girlfriend/wife”, “How are you?”, “Can we be friends?”. Nakakaloka!

It has been more than 4 months that we’re here in PH and so far so good. Let me put this in section para mas madali basahin.

The Kids

They still say they miss Dubai, their school and their friends. But if I ask them if we should go back and live in UAE again sasabihin nila na ayaw nila. They’re glad not having Arabic lessons. They hate flies, mosquitoes and ants (which is aplenty here). They experienced their first flying ipis and I thought they’ll have a heart attack.

Cole is quite surprised that the Christmas season starts very early. Ayaw nya ikabit ang Christmas tree until after Halloween. For him, it’s strange that there are more Christmas than halloween decors samantalang October pa lang. He was also very surprised na kaya tinawag na BER season is because lahat ng months ending with BER. Kala daw nya kasi malamig, you know ‘BRRRRR’ 😂


Meron kaming exit strategy bago kami umuwi. It’s not that we decided to pack our bags and then left. We saved and planned assuming we won’t earn for more than a year or two.

Let me be frank here, until now, we’re not generating income yet. Lahat ng pera palabas. Well, there’s little money coming in (from my training, books, dividends from stocks) but not enough to pay even for our groceries.

Am I worried? I would say that there would be a 3-second nega thought that creeps in (“My gosh, baka maubos na ipon namin!”) but I would replace this negative energy into a positive one agad-agad (“I’m grateful for the life I have now. Thank you Lord for giving me the courage to follow my dreams.”) and then I take actions.

I’ll give you another update after 1 year maybe, you like?

Mental well-being

Just today, I wrote in my journal how grateful I am for experiencing this life I have now. This was just a dream before.
Waking up, taking care of the kids, sending them off to school.
Writing in my journal peacefully, doing work that I’m really interested in and passionate about.

I just used to daydream and run this scene inside my head. Pero ngayon, this is my reality.

I’m more challenged to succeed nowadays dahil wala na kong financial safety cushion aka regular work. However, I’m happier and feel immense gratitude for the life I have right now.

Mas madami ng time mag selfie with filter 🙂

Until next time amigos and amigas, please say Hi and let me know if you want more of Filipina Expat musings 🙂

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Hindi kasalanan ang maging tibo at bakla

Ok, I’m triggered! Just had a heated conversation with someone and I had to back down because I think our discussion was going nowhere and it’s just a waste of energy. Buti na lang may blog ako and I can continue my battle 😂

So this person said that she respects LGBTQ community and has nothing against them BUT she doesn’t want her children to be one. If she has a choice, she would ‘guide’ her kids to have their own family and be traditional.

And I f*cking disagree! How hypocrite it is to say that you ‘support’ LGBTQ when in fact at the back of your mind you see them as different. How can you say that you are a feminist or fights for equality when you are freaking sexist! I think those people who fight racism but then dissed others who cannot be categorized directly as either man or woman are plaster saints. I’m not saying that they are bad people, it’s just that they feel righteous when they’re not and I hate it!

I know, I know, religious fanatics say that God created only a man and a woman and I don’t disagree with that. But have you heard about evolution? How the earth and everything in it changed gradually over million of years? I don’t think gays and lesbians chose to be who they are now. It’s just how they are. The same na Pinoy ka, wala kang choice! And as a parent, you can’t say “Anak, paglaki mo gusto ko maging Japanese ka ha? I-guide kita para maging hapon ka. Mas maganda kasi na maging hapon.” Doesn’t make sense right?

Do I prefer my child to be gay?

I don’t think it’s a correct question. If my son is gay, then he is gay. I can’t ‘influence’ him to be one or not. There is no acceptance required. Ano? Kapag straight na babae or lalake automatic accepted and then kapag bading or tibo may acceptance pang kelangan? Anak mo sya diba so bakit may acceptance pang nalalaman?! Hay naku, triggered talaga si aqoh!

This is my blog and this is my opinion. I can say whatever I want and if you have any issue with it then gawa kayo ng sarili nyong post. If you want to comment, let’s agree to disagree but I will delete bastos and mal-educated comments, ok?

Rant over. Love you ❤

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Buhay pa po

Buhay pa po (English translation: Still Alive)

It has been 2 months since I posted something for this blog and I rarely shared anything on any of my social media accounts. You may want to read this post I wrote for The Wealthy Pinay.

Anyhoo, I have a long list of posts I would like to share like my Belgrade trip, our Australian trip, the continuation of our Hong Kong trip last year (grabe noh?) and reviews of many restaurants we tried.

My phone has so many draft posts of things I want to share with you and I wonder when I’ll have the energy to finish them. You think blogging is easy? Yes, I thought too. Well maybe it’s easy if I won’t care about how others will feel about the post. But I just don’t want to dump photos and not share some useful info. Continue reading →

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Behave like your husband’s mistress

My college buddies started a Messenger chat group and it’s a blast!
Technology has its disadvantages for sure but perks can’t also be denied.
It’s been a while since I talked to them and it’s fun to reminisce the inside jokes, the previous love teams, and the latest happenings of our lives. Continue reading →

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About menopause and writing blocks

Wonder what’s with the title? Read on.

I am very very very keen to write something for this blog. I’ve been very quiet here for weeks now and totally not happy about it. I’m trying not to beat myself for being an absentee blogger because, you know, I have to focus on other things too (like The Wealthy Pinay). But I’m still trying anyways.

Sunday evening – I thought I’ll write about menopause because I have something witty to say about the topic.
But I need to eat first. Then I realized I want to read a book after dinner.
Monday evening – I started writing about menopause and managed to write few sentences. And then watched the semi-finals of Tawag ng Tanghalan.

Today, Tuesday, I added few sentences more. For TWO FREAKING DAYS I only managed to write 2 paragraphs.
And the worst part is I don’t know how to continue writing about the topic.


I have my period today (TMI!) and it made me think if I’m going to miss my period once it’s gone.
I’m far away from getting menopausal although I wonder how I’ll feel once this monthly thing won’t visit me anymore.

When Biel was born, we know that she’ll be our last child. So I googled on ways how not to get pregnant and that’s when I learned that menopausal symptoms only starts from age 50 in average.
“That’s how long I will take contraceptions?”, so I decided we’ll just do the natural way to avoid having another baby.


And that’s it.

I can’t even recall why I want to talk about menopause.
What am I thinking that Sunday evening? Why did I even think this is an interesting topic?
I have no idea.

And now I’m stuck with this 2-paragraph draft. I can delete it for sure but it’s like wasting 2 nights of writing. And every paragraph for me these days are important.

So please, if you want to guest post here, I will be very thankful.

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Exit Strategy

After mentioning to the whole world of our plan to move back home next year, I received several comments and questions from friends and family members too.

  • Totoo na ba yan?
  • Sure ka na ba?
  • Handa ka na ba sa mga problema ng Pilipinas?
  • Anong pagkakaabalahan mo dun?
  • Hindi madali mag negosyo.
  • Mahirap ang buhay dun.
  • I don’t think matutuloy kayo
  • At madami pang iba…

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Wanted: Blogger for a day!

I have this idea to have guests bloggers on this site but I have been resisting for so long.

First, I wanted this to be ‘my blog’ because I think the reason why people read this space is because of me (how narcissist right? LOL). Second… ahmmm… actually there’s no 2nd reason.
So basically there’s no other reason except that I just want to hoard all the attention.

Which is fine except that I’m neglecting this site because of so many things on my plate right now.
You know that I aside from my full-time job, we launched SLIAN NAILS and then I have The Wealthy Pinay
Let’s not forget the fact that I have a husband and 2 kids who need attention.
And the most important thing to consider is I need 8 hours of sleep a day. Non-negotiable.

I love Filipina Expat and I love my readers.
And I would sacrifice my pride if I know that this is one way on keeping this blog alive.

And you know what, I have met several intelligent, smart and witty women who told me that they always wanted to have a blog but never got the opportunity to create one so now this is your chance. Although there would be some criteria:

  1. You have to be a Filipina (I’m not being a racist or feminist here but I just think it make sense considering the audience)
  2. You can be based anywhere in the world.
  3. Any topic should be fine except religion and politics. No selling, no violence, nothing that will put me in jail.
  4. You can share some parenting tips, your travel adventure, your dining experience. Anything and everything under the sun.
  5. But if you are sharing dining reviews, the restaurant has to be in UAE.
  6. English should be our main language. Make sure that your grammar is better than me which is not very good anyways so you should be fine. But please don’t use any headache-inducing vocabulary. Just write as if you’re telling a story to a friend.
  7. Share some photos to include on your post. It has to be a picture that you own and not grabbed from the internet or someone else.
  8.  That’s it pansit. 

If you prefer then I can mention your social media account handles and your blog name if you’re an existing blogger.

You can share as many blog posts as you want! If you have been thinking of starting a blog, or has this itch to share something to fellow Filipinas then this is your time to do it. Because as I always say, if not now then when?

Send it to lyn(at)filipinaexpat(dot)com. Will wait for your mails 🙂


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5 Tips To Turn New Year’s Resolutions into Powerful Goals

I posted this on The Wealthy Pinay site and I want to share it with you here. 

Another year, another chance, another opportunity.

Most of us welcome this year with full of hope and positivity. Because why not, right?
It’s like we are given the chance to start anew and it feels like we are starting from scratch.
All the frustrations and pain that the previous year brought us can be forgotten.
All the things that didn’t materialized last year might happen this year.

In a way that’s true!

Unless you are dead, the chance that you can do something differently in your future is very probable.
And that’s the good thing about welcoming new year.
It gives us hope.

But I hope you just don’t end up wishing because I know you know that it doesn’t end there.
Writing new year resolutions is not enough.
Listing down your goals to achieve this year won’t do any good if you don’t follow it up with actions, and heaps of determination. But I think you already know that.
Because just like me you have done resolutions before and most of them fail.

And you are more frustrated with yourself more than anything else because you know that if only you were more courageous, more disciplined, more consistent then your goals could have happened.
You are self aware. You know what needs to be done but you lack the will to pursue them.

I’m here to give you some tips on how you can turn your new year resolutions to reality.

Continue reading here…

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