I love you

Well, not romantically, but I love you guys.

The day was slow and I thought let me check the Google Analytics for this blog. What a pleasant surprise that this little blog of mine still commands thousands of views per month considering I rarely post since unless you’re not aware, I’m not a Filipina Expat anymore.

I guess it helps that I’ve written some long, interesting, and useful content about Dubai and UAE in general and that still draws readers. I am even being approached by Dubai-based businesses for collaboration. It’s humbling to know that.

Another interesting data on this blog is that there are still many returning old readers. Awww! Guys, thanks for still checking even though I’m a useless content creator these past few months. I’m not really sure what to write now that I’m not in UAE.

I mean, you’re there and I’m here. We’re thousands of miles apart and I’m not sure if our love can sustain the distance. CHOZ. Seriously though, I can’t relate with you anymore guys. I stopped reading Gulf News (hello!!! I’m being asked to register. wth!) and I kind of hate you because you guys can live normally as if there’s no virus (LUCKY YOU!!!!) while we’re stuck here and my kids haven’t been inside the mall for almost a year now.

Even though I hate you guys, know that I love you.
The same feeling I have with our government officials. Sometimes I love them, sometimes I hate them.

Anyways, what do you want to see from this blog? Do you want to read more about my Philippine escapade? Like dining places and trending food in the Philippines? I actually re-activated the Filipina Expat Facebook page just because I do have a plan to rename it. Maybe change the name from Filipina Expat to another brand? What if I used my name?

Ideas guys! Help me!!!

I’ll end this post with ala White Castle picture of mine dahil baka miss nyo na ang fez ko.

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Is it easy to find job in Dubai?

Is it easy to find job in Dubai?

Is it easy to find job in Dubai?

I’ve been receiving lot of questions both from people I know and from readers on how they can come to Dubai. Most of the queries are:

  • Is it easy to find a job?
  • How much is the salary?
  • Can you sponsor me?
  • How much is the visa/air ticket?
  • What’s the procedure of getting a visa?

I received this mail from Arlyn and instead of replying to her directly, I thought why not just write a post about it. It would spare me from repeating myself to friends and family asking on how to do it.

I also have a question. I’ve been planning to go there in Dubai for a greener pasture opportunity. However, I don’t have any relatives there whom can assist me with the Visa. Is the cross country thing safe? Say, I’ll go to HK then Dubai and I believe there is Visa offered upon arrival. Will that work?- ARLYN

I first came to Dubai as a visit visa holder, too.We were a group of friends who tried our luck in this city and stayed in Satwa as bed spacers. Since I didn’t have a laptop yet (and there’s no wifi in our villa), I would visit computer shops everyday and apply for jobs online. I also experienced doing ‘walk-in applications’ (submitting resumes to companies even though they don’t have any vacancy). I consider myself lucky that I found a job as a receptionist in a catering company just two weeks after I landed. It wasn’t the case with my friends and some of the people I know who needed to ‘exit’ (a term which means exiting UAE and come back either on a visit visa or employment visa). Continue reading →

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You survived!

Dear Self,

What a freaking 2020, right? Just like the rest of the world thought initially, 2020 seems to be an amazing year to start the decade. Everybody wants to start the year (and the decade) on the right track.

Goals were set, dreams envisioned, plans made – then this pandemic hits us hard. Being the always optimistic, glass-half-full girl, you decided that this is just a setback and we must endure. And endure we did.

The thing is, there were many times it’s so tiring to continue, and you lost count the times you cried in the shower. You cried for all the loss, for the uncertainties, you cried because of fear and disappointment. You cried alone because you don’t want anyone to see that you’re hurt and sad and scared. You’re supposed to be strong and inspirational. The one person they can go to for advice and vent their frustration. You’re supposed to lift them. But who’s lifting you?

One thing 2020 taught so many of us is how STRONG and RESILIENT we all are. I’m so proud of each and every one of us for surviving this shitty year. Because even though we cried, and cried, and cried, we still manage to get up and get through. It ain’t easy, we don’t want to do it, but a strong woman knows that this too shall pass.

It’s so amusing to remember the roller coaster of emotions you went through:

January to March – “GIRL POWER! I can conquer the world!”
April to June – “this is just a setback, everything will be okay”
July to September – “I fucking hate it. I just want to curl up and cry in the shower for 5 hours”
October – “Oh well, now what? Crying is tiring.”
November – “Maybe I can start again.”
December – “You survived bitch! Any plans for 2021?”

Self, I appreciate you. In spite and despite of everything, you did it.
Your spirit might have gone low but you constantly try to lift it up through your faith, through your beliefs, through the sheer mental power to fuck 2020! haha

I’d like to say that I hate 2020 because of all the shit that happened but honestly, I don’t. Many amazing things have happened too. Focusing on what didn’t happen or what we lost is human but counting what we have gained and didn’t lose is gratitude. And despite of everything, gratefulness for what we still have is what drives us to continue.

You deserve to do something for yourself. Pamper yourself, buy yourself that shit you wanted for the longest time, travel, take a break, read a book alone, do everything, or do nothing if you want – just take care of yourself these coming days. You fucking deserve it!

Next year, I know you’ll be reborn. You’re stronger, you’re wiser, you’re determined more than ever. 2021 should better be so ready because you’re so ready for her!

xx,
LynJoy

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Ano ang nasa dako pa roon?

Aloha! I just renewed my Filipina Expat domain with no further plans on what to do with it. You probably know that I have thewealthypinay.com and you’ll see regular blog posts there.

Now that I’m back in the Philippines, the brand The Wealthy Pinay will be a source of income for me – workshops, books, speaking engagements – so giving it more time is a must.

However, bilang isa syang wealth/money mindset/business blog, I can’t really post this random, useless, entertaining, witty thoughts that I want to share to the world just to unload. So until I figure out what to do with Filipina Expat domain, you’ll probably read more from me. By the way, wala ng FB page ang Filipina Expat dahil ang mga messages na nare-receive ko doon ay puro lalake, “Looking for a Filipina girlfriend/wife”, “How are you?”, “Can we be friends?”. Nakakaloka!

It has been more than 4 months that we’re here in PH and so far so good. Let me put this in section para mas madali basahin.

The Kids

They still say they miss Dubai, their school and their friends. But if I ask them if we should go back and live in UAE again sasabihin nila na ayaw nila. They’re glad not having Arabic lessons. They hate flies, mosquitoes and ants (which is aplenty here). They experienced their first flying ipis and I thought they’ll have a heart attack.

Cole is quite surprised that the Christmas season starts very early. Ayaw nya ikabit ang Christmas tree until after Halloween. For him, it’s strange that there are more Christmas than halloween decors samantalang October pa lang. He was also very surprised na kaya tinawag na BER season is because lahat ng months ending with BER. Kala daw nya kasi malamig, you know ‘BRRRRR’ 😂

Money-wise

Meron kaming exit strategy bago kami umuwi. It’s not that we decided to pack our bags and then left. We saved and planned assuming we won’t earn for more than a year or two.

Let me be frank here, until now, we’re not generating income yet. Lahat ng pera palabas. Well, there’s little money coming in (from my training, books, dividends from stocks) but not enough to pay even for our groceries.

Am I worried? I would say that there would be a 3-second nega thought that creeps in (“My gosh, baka maubos na ipon namin!”) but I would replace this negative energy into a positive one agad-agad (“I’m grateful for the life I have now. Thank you Lord for giving me the courage to follow my dreams.”) and then I take actions.

I’ll give you another update after 1 year maybe, you like?

Mental well-being

Just today, I wrote in my journal how grateful I am for experiencing this life I have now. This was just a dream before.
Waking up, taking care of the kids, sending them off to school.
Writing in my journal peacefully, doing work that I’m really interested in and passionate about.

I just used to daydream and run this scene inside my head. Pero ngayon, this is my reality.

I’m more challenged to succeed nowadays dahil wala na kong financial safety cushion aka regular work. However, I’m happier and feel immense gratitude for the life I have right now.

Mas madami ng time mag selfie with filter 🙂

Until next time amigos and amigas, please say Hi and let me know if you want more of Filipina Expat musings 🙂

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Hindi kasalanan ang maging tibo at bakla

Ok, I’m triggered! Just had a heated conversation with someone and I had to back down because I think our discussion was going nowhere and it’s just a waste of energy. Buti na lang may blog ako and I can continue my battle 😂

So this person said that she respects LGBTQ community and has nothing against them BUT she doesn’t want her children to be one. If she has a choice, she would ‘guide’ her kids to have their own family and be traditional.

And I f*cking disagree! How hypocrite it is to say that you ‘support’ LGBTQ when in fact at the back of your mind you see them as different. How can you say that you are a feminist or fights for equality when you are freaking sexist! I think those people who fight racism but then dissed others who cannot be categorized directly as either man or woman are plaster saints. I’m not saying that they are bad people, it’s just that they feel righteous when they’re not and I hate it!

I know, I know, religious fanatics say that God created only a man and a woman and I don’t disagree with that. But have you heard about evolution? How the earth and everything in it changed gradually over million of years? I don’t think gays and lesbians chose to be who they are now. It’s just how they are. The same na Pinoy ka, wala kang choice! And as a parent, you can’t say “Anak, paglaki mo gusto ko maging Japanese ka ha? I-guide kita para maging hapon ka. Mas maganda kasi na maging hapon.” Doesn’t make sense right?

Do I prefer my child to be gay?

I don’t think it’s a correct question. If my son is gay, then he is gay. I can’t ‘influence’ him to be one or not. There is no acceptance required. Ano? Kapag straight na babae or lalake automatic accepted and then kapag bading or tibo may acceptance pang kelangan? Anak mo sya diba so bakit may acceptance pang nalalaman?! Hay naku, triggered talaga si aqoh!

This is my blog and this is my opinion. I can say whatever I want and if you have any issue with it then gawa kayo ng sarili nyong post. If you want to comment, let’s agree to disagree but I will delete bastos and mal-educated comments, ok?

Rant over. Love you ❤

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Buhay pa po

Buhay pa po (English translation: Still Alive)

It has been 2 months since I posted something for this blog and I rarely shared anything on any of my social media accounts. You may want to read this post I wrote for The Wealthy Pinay.

Anyhoo, I have a long list of posts I would like to share like my Belgrade trip, our Australian trip, the continuation of our Hong Kong trip last year (grabe noh?) and reviews of many restaurants we tried.

My phone has so many draft posts of things I want to share with you and I wonder when I’ll have the energy to finish them. You think blogging is easy? Yes, I thought too. Well maybe it’s easy if I won’t care about how others will feel about the post. But I just don’t want to dump photos and not share some useful info. Continue reading →

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Behave like your husband’s mistress

My college buddies started a Messenger chat group and it’s a blast!
Technology has its disadvantages for sure but perks can’t also be denied.
It’s been a while since I talked to them and it’s fun to reminisce the inside jokes, the previous love teams, and the latest happenings of our lives. Continue reading →

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About menopause and writing blocks

Wonder what’s with the title? Read on.

I am very very very keen to write something for this blog. I’ve been very quiet here for weeks now and totally not happy about it. I’m trying not to beat myself for being an absentee blogger because, you know, I have to focus on other things too (like The Wealthy Pinay). But I’m still trying anyways.

Sunday evening – I thought I’ll write about menopause because I have something witty to say about the topic.
But I need to eat first. Then I realized I want to read a book after dinner.
Monday evening – I started writing about menopause and managed to write few sentences. And then watched the semi-finals of Tawag ng Tanghalan.

Today, Tuesday, I added few sentences more. For TWO FREAKING DAYS I only managed to write 2 paragraphs.
And the worst part is I don’t know how to continue writing about the topic.

*****

I have my period today (TMI!) and it made me think if I’m going to miss my period once it’s gone.
I’m far away from getting menopausal although I wonder how I’ll feel once this monthly thing won’t visit me anymore.

When Biel was born, we know that she’ll be our last child. So I googled on ways how not to get pregnant and that’s when I learned that menopausal symptoms only starts from age 50 in average.
“That’s how long I will take contraceptions?”, so I decided we’ll just do the natural way to avoid having another baby.

*****

And that’s it.

I can’t even recall why I want to talk about menopause.
What am I thinking that Sunday evening? Why did I even think this is an interesting topic?
I have no idea.

And now I’m stuck with this 2-paragraph draft. I can delete it for sure but it’s like wasting 2 nights of writing. And every paragraph for me these days are important.

So please, if you want to guest post here, I will be very thankful.

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Exit Strategy

After mentioning to the whole world of our plan to move back home next year, I received several comments and questions from friends and family members too.

  • Totoo na ba yan?
  • Sure ka na ba?
  • Handa ka na ba sa mga problema ng Pilipinas?
  • Anong pagkakaabalahan mo dun?
  • Hindi madali mag negosyo.
  • Mahirap ang buhay dun.
  • I don’t think matutuloy kayo
  • At madami pang iba…

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